If you look at your own life, where do you stand with your expectations? I think the answer for most people focuses on three areas: money, family, and relationships. If you are in a happy marriage or partnership, surrounded by a happy family, and free from financial problems, you probably count yourself very lucky. So many people fall sort of these goals, and few are so fulfilled that they'd consider themselves to be thriving.
Yet from a different perspective, one that looks from the inside out, these externals markers shouldn't be our measure of fulfillment. In reality, almost all the causes of frustration, lack of fulfillment, and the feeling of being stuck are due to one thing: low expectations. Psychological studies have consistently shown that earning more money, beyond feeling fairly comfortable, doesn't lead to greater happiness. In fact, seeing yourself in terms of money, possessions, status, and career success is the same as selling yourself woefully short—your inner potential still needs to be awakened.
Measures for FulfillmentHere are some goals that bring growing fulfillment over a lifetime:
- Finding out who you really are.
- Expanding your awareness every day.
- Living according to a higher vision.
- Giving of yourself to others.
- Following your own truth.
- Being a model for your children to live up to.
- Exploring the spiritual dimension of life.
- Setting a difficult, meaningful goal and achieving it.
- Becoming a master at an art or craft.
- Acting as a mentor to the young and/or disadvantaged.
- Delving into the world's wisdom traditions.
It may be too simple to say that raising your expectations leads to happiness while lowering them leads to unhappiness. Life is too unpredictable for that. But for centuries the inner path has been extolled as the best thing about being human. Therefore, it isn't simplistic to say that for someone who hasn't explored the inner path, the bar of expectations has been set much too low.
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