Challenges in our life are hard enough without hang-ups such as the need to be perfect, toxic people, or trying to please other people. If we can look at these challenges as opportunities to learn, grow, and set ourselves free to follow our own paths, we are one step closer to finding that inner peace we all long for. It just takes a little effort and practice to rid yourself of these common hang-ups that can weigh heavily on your life.
The Need to Be PerfectNobody is perfect. I spent all of my 20s and half of my 30s striving for perfection. I wanted the perfect career, marriage, body, and life—so all would admire me. It took a trauma, an ongoing battle with an eating disorder, a debilitating illness, and the loss of my childhood best friend to change my incessant need to be perfect. I came to realize that I wasn’t perfect, and never would be. I now accept that I’m the most perfect “imperfect” human being on the planet. One who makes mistakes, has a less than perfect life, but still inspires others through my humanness.
The Need to People PleaseSometimes, people just won’t like you. They won’t like the way you dress or how you talk. These people won’t like your energy, your perky personality, or your dry sense of humor.
Work on accepting that not everyone will like you, no matter how nice you are or how much you try to please him or her.
Being RightI grew up in an environment where whoever argued the loudest or got the last word in got to be “right.” It was exhausting. All of those years spent arguing, holding grudges, or trying to bend someone to my point of view were a waste of time. In the end, it didn’t really matter.
We all live from our own perception and in almost every situation, there is no right or wrong. There are just differences in opinions and the way we all see the world.
Beating Yourself Up for Making MistakesMistakes: We all make them. It’s called “being human.” Try to view your mistakes as lessons. If you keep making the same one, you just didn’t get the lesson the first time around. That’s OK. Be gentle and loving with yourself and give yourself another chance to do things differently next time. Eventually, you’ll get it right.
Giving Your Power AwayWhen you allow someone’s opinion oractions towards you to affect your day, you’re giving away your personal power. You’re allowing another human being to tell you that you aren’t good enough, that you aren’t worthy, or that you aren’t OK just as you are.
Take your power back; and don’t let what others say or their opinions define who you are. You are a divine spiritual being who is having a human experience; which means you are powerful beyond measure.