So how can you become happier? Ask yourself the following five questions, which can give insight into the practices of the happiest people in America.
1. Are You Grateful?Positive psychologists agree that gratitude can strongly contribute to happiness. People who are consistently grateful can experience more optimism, better health, fulfilling experiences, and stronger relationships.
While you can experience benefits from thinking grateful thoughts, the benefits can actually be amplified through external expression. You can express your grateful thoughts in many ways, including verbally appreciating your experiences or writing them down in a gratitude journal.
2. Do You Set Goals?Psychology Today reports that setting and pursuing goals can make you happier and provide more meaning in your life. Setting goals helps turn dreams into reality, as goals bring about focus, determination, and pride. The subsequent act of then pursuing the goals and making progress on them adds a sense of accomplishment, fulfillment, and overall greater life satisfaction. But be sure to write your goals down: A study at Harvard Business School discovered that the three percent of their MBA graduates who wrote clear goals down earned, on average, 10 times more 10 years later than the other 97 percent who either didn’t have goals or didn’t write them down.
3. Are You an Optimist?Having an optimistic outlook not only increases your happiness level, but also improves your health, your relationships, and your overall well-being. People who look at the bright side of life are able to more easily savor the happy times and are more resilient in the difficult ones.
What is the easiest way to become more optimistic? Practice more gratitude. Focus on what you do have, rather than what is missing. Imagine what your life would be like if you didn’t have the things you might take for granted. Trust that the universe has your back, and that everything that happens is necessary in your life’s story.
4. Do You Know Your Strengths and How to Use Them?According to Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, a strength is a psychological characteristic that can be tracked over time and across different situations. Have you spent any time considering your strengths? Utilizing character strengths has been linked to increased happiness across many areas of life—so understanding what you are good at is more important than you may have previously realized. By first acknowledging your strengths (either by self-reflection, by taking the Strengths Finders Test, or by taking the VIA survey), and then using them in new and unique ways, Seligman says you can improve your quality of life and overall life satisfaction.
The happiest people also have certain strengths in common: enthusiasm, hope, love, gratitude, and curiosity. If these strengths don’t currently reside among your top characteristics, you can try to incorporate them into your day-to-day life for a proven happiness booster.
5. Do You Meditate?Happy people make an effort to be present in the moment rather than focus on the past or the future. Participating in habits like yoga and meditation help you stay connected to the present, and incorporating this into daily routine can create greater inner peace, calm, and perspective. Not currently a meditator? Happiness researcher Shawn Achor reports that meditating for as little as two minutes a day for 21 days can improve your overall happiness.
The Next Step: Take a Happiness SurveyInterested in finding out more about your happiness level? There are several happiness surveys that can give you more specific insights into your happiness set-point, here are a few:
- The Oxford Happiness Questionnaire
- The Authentic Happiness Inventory
- The Life Satisfaction Survey
- The Happy For No Reason Questionnaire
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