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Getting through the holidays well is part of being on your own path. What works at this time of year is the same as the rest of the year, except that you need to be more mindful of pitfalls and possible stresses.
Stress over-stimulates the body-mind, throwing off its tendency to remain in dynamic balance. "Dynamic" means that your body-mind is responding from moment to moment. "Balance" refers to a state of homeostasis that functions through many feedback loops to keep dozens of processes in sync.
For most people, the over-stimulation of the holidays is seen as negative—the proverbial drunk uncle at Thanksgiving, the predictable family squabbles, the worrying over extra expenses, and the sudden jammed-packed schedule filled with too much shopping, parties, etc. But to the body-mind, the stress response is equally triggered by over-stimulation on the positive side. Stress experts call this "eu-stress," where "eu" is the Greek word for good. As anyone knows who has organized and cooked a big holiday dinner, it's a stressful job even when the dinner turns out beautifully.
Here are some tips to keep calm and cool during the holidays.
The first thing you need to do is to avoid putting the body-mind into an over-stimulated state. The key points are:
Next comes psychological stress, which for many people is cumulative. As the holidays approach, there is a worry and expectation that bad events from the past will likely repeat themselves. This is a form of self-created stress. When you see its signs, sit down, take a few minutes to center yourself, breathe deeply, and if possible—meditate. Your goal is to avoid getting into a self-generated state that remains in psychological overdrive.
You want to maintain the state of calm and control that you enjoy at other times of the year. The key points are:
Now you know the general guidelines for being calm and mindful during the holidays. Since most people forget to follow these guidelines, there's a good chance that they will fall into the category of good advice or "If only I had remembered to..." The key to implementing a better strategy is to practice it beforehand.
Visualization is a considerable help in this regard. Most holiday difficulties are predictable. You, your family, and everyone you know has been through them multiple times. Use this foreknowledge to your advantage. Try this visualization meditation to help:
Now be pro-active with your visualization. See people moving and acting in a different way according to the outcome you'd like to see. Perhaps you arrive at the grocery store at an off hour, have a pleasant conversation with someone next to you in line, and act cheerfully toward the cashier. At the dinner table when someone touches on a sensitive political (or personal) issue, see yourself excusing yourself from the table and taking time out. Or see yourself asking others if they want to join you in a taking an after-dinner walk.
The point is that the holidays box you into old conditioning and patterns of behavior that may make you feel stuck. Everything discussed in this article, including the visualizations, is about getting unstuck. Until you see and act on new possibilities, they can't unfold. Remember, everyone feels as if they are boxed in during the holidays, so no one else is to blame. When everyone is stuck, to some degree or other, it's your own responsibility to get unstuck. In this way the holidays become part of your own path to renewing yourself and exploring the creative side of your consciousness.